We’re always looking for ways to be happier. Whether that is because we’re not happy with our job, or the simple, yet not so simple, fact that we’re lacking positivity.
We’ve all been there. I have what I call ‘blur days’ – days where I’ve jumped off the positivity train and leapt into a field of doubt and uncertainty. Where I lose my go get ’em attitude, and happiness within myself, which is why I wanted to write this post, incase any of you are, or have felt like this and are looking for a way to move forward.
I wanted to start a ‘wellness’ section within this blog for a while, but never knew what to start with. Wellness can be a very personal thing, however I realised that it’s also personal to me, so why don’t I start there. The last few years have been a little rocky (I’m not going to go into detail) and it’s taken me a long time to get the spark back in my step and be happy, so that’s where I decided to start: happiness.
Here are 4 of the ways I’ve found that have made me a happier person:
1. Stop with the ‘what ifs’. It’s so common for us to to contemplate the many ‘what ifs’ of our daily lives and the future. It can be anything from…
What if I don’t a certain grade for an exam?
What if I don’t get into my top choice university?
What if I don’t get the job?
What if… etc etc etc.
All of these (and many many more) are something we’ve probably all thought, and although it can be easy for someone to say it’ll be all ok in the end, it can be difficult to hear and much more difficult to believe. So instead of trying to persuade you to believe that I will simply say that fear is a natural side effect. We all feel fear, and if we didn’t we wouldn’t be who we are. Something I’ve always thought and keep reminding myself, is that fear is the first step to great things.
2. Do something for someone else. You can take this however you like, maybe you could do something for a family member, help out a friend or neighbour, or why not volunteer for a charity. Doing something for someone else not only makes that person happy / can make a difference in someone else’s life, but it has a knock on effect and makes you happy too.
3. Stop looking back to the past and focus on straight ahead. Similarly to number 2, we’ve probably all thought ‘what if I had done X differently’, and yes sometimes it can be nice to think about those things, but it’s never a good idea to dwell on them.
I sometimes think back to when I was picking my A-levels and wish I had not listened to what I was told and actually applied to do photography, but unfortunately I didn’t. Although it annoys me, I’m glad that I studied what I did, plus there’s never an expiration date on learning. I’ve not been on a photography course, but I have been learning how to use my Canon since last year and I enjoy it. Yes it’s slower this way (hello other commitments), but like with the story of the tortoise and the hare, slow and steady wins the race.
Focusing on the present will keep you on the path to move forward.
4. Be comfortable with you. By ‘you’ I mean you as in a whole: your body, appearance and what makes you – you. Being able to be happy with yourself and see the beauty within you will take so much weight off your shoulders. And yes I do realise this is a big-un, and can be difficult to put into practice. It’s so easy to be negative about ourselves, it’s practically criminal. If you’re naturally a positive person then keep doing what your doing, but for most of us positivity is something that needs to be worked on every damn day. We need to celebrate our uniqueness, give ourselves a pat on the back for our achievements, and remember we’re wonderful.
I feel like this point needs to be expanded upon in it’s own post, because there is so much more I want to write, but for now: the next time you look in the mirror make sure you give yourself a big thumbs up because hey, you’re awesome!
Do you have any advice on how to stay positive or be happier?